July 24, 2026

The Gift of Older Christians in Your Life

The Gift of Older Christians in Your Life

Key Takeaways

  • Spending all your time with peers leaves a gap in your spiritual life because nobody in that circle has been where you are going yet.
  • Passages like Titus 2:1-5 emphasize the importance of older Christians modeling sound faith, patience, and self-control for younger generations.
  • Patience is a unique gift earned by older believers who have lived long enough to watch God keep His word through multiple life storms.
  • Mentorship does not always require formal meetings; impactful guidance can happen through simple means like written newsletters or distance relationships.
  • Believers are encouraged to proactively seek out someone a couple of decades ahead in the faith or offer their own ordinary presence to a younger believer.

Most adult Christians spend their time with people in the same life stage, and miss the wisdom of believers who have walked with God far longer. Discover what older Christians offer, and how to find one.

Most of us spend our time with people in our own stage of life. Parents of young kids know other parents of young kids, and those friendships matter. But when your whole circle is people the same age and mileage as you, something gets left out. Nobody in that circle has been where you are going yet. You are all reading the same map for the first time. What you miss is a believer who has walked with God far longer, someone who can tell you He keeps His word because they have watched Him do it for decades.

This episode opens with Barbara Rainey, who came to faith in college during the Jesus Movement and once heard a speaker she had never known before, Elisabeth Elliot, the missionary widow whose husband had been killed in Ecuador. Barbara wanted the kind of faith that woman had, one with some steel in it. Then Barbara married, the babies came, and her world got small fast. While her husband traveled and spoke, she was home changing diapers, and she started wondering whether her faith counted for anything now that nobody was watching her live it.

Paul told a young pastor named Titus to knit the generations together in the church. Titus 2:1-5 describes older women training younger women and older men modeling self-control and sound faith for those coming behind, so the generations are mixed in together, learning from one another. Look at what the older ones bring: sound faith and patience. Patience is the kind of thing you only earn by living long enough to watch God keep His word again and again. That is the gift an older believer hands you. They have already seen God do the thing you are scared He will not do.

So if you do not have someone like that right now, ask God for one, and then go looking. Find the person a couple of decades ahead of you and get near them. And if you are the older one, your ordinary presence in a younger believer's life means more than you think. The woman who mentored Barbara for years, through a simple folded newsletter that arrived in her mailbox, never once met her in person. An older believer's witness reaches further than you would guess, even at a distance.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

  • Why a circle made up only of peers leaves a gift out of your spiritual life
  • What Titus 2:1-5 says older believers offer the younger ones coming behind them
  • A practical step for finding an older Christian to learn from, or becoming one for someone else

Go find a believer who has walked with God longer than you have, or go be one for somebody who needs it.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do adult Christians need older mentors?

When your circle is limited to peers, everyone is reading the same map for the first time. Older Christians provide the wisdom and calm assurance of someone who has watched God keep His promises for decades.

What does the Bible say about older and younger generations in the church?

In Titus 2:1-5, the Apostle Paul instructs older men and women to model sound faith, self-control, and patience, training the younger generations so that believers are knit together and learning from one another.

How can you find an older Christian to learn from?

You can start by asking God to bring someone into your life, then look for a believer who is a couple of decades ahead of you and proactively reach out to get near them.

Can an older Christian mentor someone without meeting in person?

Yes, an older believer's witness can reach far beyond physical meetings, just as Elisabeth Elliot mentored Barbara Rainey for years entirely through folded four-page newsletters.

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Barbara Rainey became a Christian in her

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sophomore year of college, and within three years, she was

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helping lead a campus ministry in the middle of the Jesus

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Movement. At one of those conferences, she heard a woman

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she'd never heard of, Elizabeth Elliott, the missionary widow

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whose husband had been killed in Ecuador. Barbara took notes as

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fast as her hand would move. She wanted the thing that woman had,

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a faith with some steel in it. Four years after coming to

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Christ, she married Dennis, her best friend from college. Then

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the babies started arriving, and her world got small really fast.

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Dennis was out traveling and changing the world. Barbara was

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home changing diapers. The conferences fell off her

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calendar, and so did the Bible studies. She felt lost in those

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years, and she started wondering whether her faith counted for

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anything now that nobody was watching her live it. Then,

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something started showing up in her mailbox. We'll come back to

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what was in that mailbox. But

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first, welcome to Daily Devotions for Busy Lives. I'm

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Early in ministry, I had a mentor named Dr. Hugh Hughley.

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He was decades ahead of me in the faith, and he'd watched God

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work through more storms than I had lived through. What he gave

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me was simple. His presence and the calm assurance of a man who

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had seen God come through enough times that he didn't rattle

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easily. My friends my own age couldn't give me that because

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they hadn't lived it yet. Dr. Hughley had. I needed somebody

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further down the road, and God gave me one. Here's something

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that's easy to miss. Most of us spend our time with people in

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our own stage of life. Parents of young kids know other parents

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of young kids, and that's natural. And those friendships

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really do matter. But when your whole circle is made up of

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people the same age and the same mileage as you, something gets

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left out. Nobody in that circle has been where you're going yet.

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You're all reading the same map for the first time. Paul told a

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younger pastor named Titus to knit the generations together in

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the church. Listen to Titus 2.1-5. For you, Titus, promote

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the kind of living that reflects wholesome teaching. Teach the

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older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of

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respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and

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be filled with love and patience. Similarly, teach the older women

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to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or

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be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good.

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These older women must train the younger women to love their

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husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work

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in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their

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husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the Word of God.

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Notice how Paul sets it up. The older women train the younger

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women. The older men model self-control and sound faith for

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the young men coming behind. He assumes that generations are

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mixed in together, learning from one another. And look at what

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the older ones bring to it. Sound faith and patience.

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Patience is the kind of thing you earn only by living long

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enough to watch God keep His Word again and again. That's the

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gift an older believer hands you. They've already seen God do the

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things you're scared He won't do. So if you don't have someone

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like that in your life right now, ask God for one and then go

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looking. Find the person a couple of decades ahead of you

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and get near them. And if you're the older one, I want you to

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hear this. You don't have to run a program. Your ordinary

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presence in a young believer's life means more than you think.

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The woman who mentored Barbara for years never once met her.

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Here's what was in that mailbox. A newsletter. Four pages. Folded.

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Nothing fancy. Elizabeth Elliott wrote it and mailed it out, and

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it landed in Barbara's box every so often. Barbara would spot it

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in the stack and walk down that long, hilly driveway, already

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working out when she could slip away and read it alone. She was

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thirsty enough that a folded piece of paper was a gift. That

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newsletter mentored her for years. The two of them had never

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met or spoken, and through those pages, an older woman kept

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telling her that God knew exactly what He was doing and

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that her faith mattered in the years nobody saw. Barbara still

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has every one of them in a three-inch binder. About 20

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years after that first conference, Elizabeth Elliott

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came to Little Rock, and Barbara finally met her. Dennis

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interviewed her on the air and asked whether she still

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struggled with submission. Elliott didn't pause. She said,

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with every fiber of my being. And Barbara sat there thinking,

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there she goes again, still teaching me. Never met, never

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spoke, and she shaped Barbara's faith for 25 years, four folded

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pages at a time. That's how far an older believer's witness can

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reach, even at a distance. Imagine what one across the

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table could do. Here's today's challenge. Think of one believer

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who has walked with God longer than you have, someone whose

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faith you'd want a piece of. This week, reach out. Send the

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text and tell them you'd like to learn from them. And if you're

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farther down the road yourself, pick one younger believer and

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get near them. You don't need a curriculum. You just need to be

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there. Father, thank you for the believers who've walked with you

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longer than we have, and for everything they've learned in

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all those years with you. For anyone listening who has no one

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like that, bring them someone and give them the nerve to reach

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out. are the older ones now, open our eyes to the younger

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believer who needs our ordinary presence. Make us people who

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pass down what you've taught us. In Jesus' name, amen. If you

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to offer you won't get from your peers. So go find one or go be

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one. Come back next time for more encouragement to help you

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live grounded in God's truth. Until then, God bless and have a

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great day.