When You Keep Starting Things and Not Finishing Them
Key Takeaways
- Many Christians struggle with a pattern of starting projects with high excitement around week six, only to lose momentum and leave them half-finished.
- Psychologist Angela Duckworth studied West Point cadets during Beast Barracks and discovered that traditional test scores and fitness numbers could not predict who would finish; grit was the determining factor.
- Ecclesiastes 7:8 pairs finishing with patience and starting with pride, highlighting how cheap a simple start is compared to the endurance required in the middle.
- Believers should pray for two distinct things: the endurance and grace to finish what they start, and the wisdom to know what is actually important enough to start in the first place.
- Grit is built over time by finishing small tasks sequentially, and listeners are challenged to finish one small unfinished task today while purposefully quitting another.
You begin with excitement, and by week six the momentum runs out. Learn what Solomon puts beside starting in Ecclesiastes 7:8, and the second prayer most of us never think to pray.
Some Christians have noticed a pattern in themselves. You start with excitement. A new project, or a new commitment at church. For a few weeks it's the best thing going. Then somewhere around week six, the momentum runs out. It stops being fun, and the thing stays half-done while you're already getting interested in something else. What wears on you is the accumulation. One unfinished thing is nothing. Eleven of them start to feel like a verdict on your character.
This episode opens at West Point, where thousands of new cadets arrive every summer for a training so brutal they simply call it Beast Barracks. Some of the most talented young people in the country walk in, and a lot of them do not make it to the end. Psychologist Angela Duckworth wanted to know why. She had the cadets' test scores and fitness numbers in front of her, and she figured the strongest and smartest would be the ones still standing when it was over.
Ecclesiastes 7:8 says, "Finishing is better than starting. Patience is better than pride." Look at what Solomon puts side by side. Finishing goes with patience, and starting goes with pride. That second line stings a little, and there's something to it. The start is where you get to picture yourself finished. You see the completed thing in your head and get a little of the feeling of having done it before you've done any of it. Starts are cheap. A start costs you an afternoon and a trip to the store. A finish costs you the ninety days in the middle when nobody is watching.
So ask God for two things, and understand that they're two different requests. The first is the grace to finish what you start. That's endurance, the willingness to keep going after the feeling that got you started is long gone. The second request gets less attention, and it may be the one you need more. Ask for the wisdom to know what is important enough to start in the first place. Some of your unfinished things were never yours to begin. A man who starts six things and finishes one has a discernment problem as much as an endurance problem.
Bart shares his own version of this, the college year he walked away from and the second attempt a few years later that ran all the way through grad school to a PhD. Duckworth found something similar at West Point. The scores and fitness numbers told her what a cadet was able to do, and nothing about who would still be standing on day thirty-nine.
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
What Solomon sets beside starting, and why it stings The second prayer to pray about your unfinished list One thing to finish today and one thing to quit on purpose
Grit gets built the same way every time, by finishing something small and then finishing the next thing after it. Finish one small thing today, and quit one on purpose.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What does Angela Duckworth's research on grit at West Point reveal about finishing goals?
Angela Duckworth found that initial test scores and fitness numbers do not predict who will successfully complete brutal training like Beast Barracks. Instead, grit—a blend of passion and sheer endurance—is what separates those who finish from those who quit.
What does Ecclesiastes 7:8 say about starting versus finishing?
Ecclesiastes 7:8 states that finishing is better than starting and patience is better than pride. The verse links starting to pride and finishing to the patience required during the difficult middle phases when nobody is watching.
What are the two prayers Christians should pray regarding unfinished projects?
The first prayer asks God for the grace and endurance to finish what you start after initial excitement fades. The second prayer asks for the wisdom to discern what is truly important enough to start in the first place, preventing an accumulation of unassigned commitments.
How can you start building grit in your daily life?
You can build grit by finishing one small, manageable unfinished task today before moving on to the next. Additionally, purposefully quitting unneeded commitments clears mental and physical room for what truly matters.
Every summer, new cadets arrive at West Point for
Bart Leger:a training so brutal, they simply call it beast barracks.
Bart Leger:Some of the most talented young people in the country walk in,
Bart Leger:and a lot of them do not make it to the end. A psychologist,
Bart Leger:Angela Duckworth, wanted to know why. She had the cadets' test
Bart Leger:scores and their fitness numbers in front of her. She figured the
Bart Leger:strongest and smartest would be the one still standing when it
Bart Leger:was over.
Bart Leger:she had measured told her who would finish. The answer turned
Bart Leger:out to be something she almost missed. We'll come back to what
Bart Leger:she found, but first,
Bart Leger:welcome to Daily Devotions for Busy Lives. I'm Bart Leger. I
Bart Leger:know a little bit about from my own life. I went to college
Bart Leger:right out of high school, and I didn't go back for the second
Bart Leger:year. Quit is the word for A few years went by before I went back,
Bart Leger:and that time was different. I put everything I had into it,
Bart Leger:and I kept going. Grad school after that, then a Ph. D. What
Bart Leger:made the difference? What changed was that the second time,
Bart Leger:I meant it. Some Christians have noticed a pattern in themselves.
Bart Leger:They start with excitement, a new project, or a new commitment
Bart Leger:at church. For a few weeks, it's the best thing going. Then
Bart Leger:somewhere, maybe around week six, the momentum runs out. It stops
Bart Leger:being fun, and the thing stays half done while you're already
Bart Leger:getting interested in something else. What wears on you is the
Bart Leger:accumulation. One unfinished thing is nothing. Eleven of them
Bart Leger:start to feel like a character flaw. Solomon knew all about
Bart Leger:this. Here's Ecclesiastes 7, verse 8. Finishing is better
Bart Leger:than starting. Patience is better than pride. Look at what
Bart Leger:he says. Finishing is all about patience. Starting? Mostly about
Bart Leger:pride. The second sometimes stings a little. Solomon sets
Bart Leger:starting next to pride. And there's something to that, I
Bart Leger:believe. The start is where you get to picture yourself finished.
Bart Leger:You see the completing thing in your head, and you get a little
Bart Leger:of the feeling of having done it before you've done any of it.
Bart Leger:Starts are cheap. A start costs you an afternoon, maybe in a
Bart Leger:trip to the store. A finish costs you the 90 days in the
Bart Leger:middle when nobody's watching, and it stopped being interesting
Bart Leger:a long time ago. So ask God for two things, and understand that
Bart Leger:there are two different requests. The first is the grace to finish
Bart Leger:what you start. That's endurance. The willingness to keep going
Bart Leger:after the feeling that got you started is long gone. Nobody
Bart Leger:finishes anything on the strength of the excitement they
Bart Leger:had in week one. The second request gets less attention, and
Bart Leger:it may be the one you need more. Ask for the wisdom to know
Bart Leger:what's important enough to start in the first place. Here's why
Bart Leger:that's important. Some of your unfinished things were never
Bart Leger:yours to begin. You started them because somebody asked you, or
Bart Leger:because starting felt productive that week. A man who starts six
Bart Leger:things and finishes one has a discernment problem as much as
Bart Leger:an endurance problem. Fewer better chosen. Then stay with
Bart Leger:them until they're done. What predicted who would make it came
Bart Leger:down to one quality Duckworth called Grit, a blend of passion
Bart Leger:and sheer endurance. The willingness to keep going long
Bart Leger:after the excitement wore off. The cadets who finished were the
Bart Leger:ones who refused to quit when it stopped being fun, gifted or not.
Bart Leger:Duckworth spent the rest of her career showing the same thing in
Bart Leger:classrooms and workplaces. Starting takes a spark.
Bart Leger:Finishing takes grit. Look at what she had been measuring.
Bart Leger:Test scores and fitness numbers, the things you would put on an
Bart Leger:application. Those tell you what a person is able to do. They
Bart Leger:tell you nothing about whether he will still be standing on day
Bart Leger:39. That difference is where most of our half-finished things
Bart Leger:live. Here's the encouraging part. Grit gets built the same
Bart Leger:way every time by finishing something small, then finishing
Bart Leger:the next thing after it, and so on and so on. Here's today's
Bart Leger:challenge. Pick the smallest, unfinished thing you have, the
Bart Leger:one that would take you maybe an hour. Finish it today before you
Bart Leger:go to bed. Then look at the rest of that list and pick one thing
Bart Leger:to quit on purpose. Take it off your list. is a different act
Bart Leger:from letting it die of neglect, and it clears room for what
Bart Leger:matters. And pray the second prayer. God, show me what you
Bart Leger:would have me start and what you would have me leave alone.
Bart Leger:Father, finish what you began. Everything you have ever started,
Bart Leger:you have brought all the way to completion. We are not built
Bart Leger:that way, and you know it better than we do. For everybody
Bart Leger:listening who is looking at a pile of things they started and
Bart Leger:walked away from, give them the endurance to finish the next one,
Bart Leger:and give them the wisdom to start fewer things and to start
Bart Leger:the right ones. In Jesus' name, amen. If this episode encouraged
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Bart Leger:joining me on Daily Devotions for Busy Lives. Remember,
Bart Leger:finishing is better than starting, and Solomon set
Bart Leger:patience right next to it on purpose. Finish one small thing
Bart Leger:today and quit one on purpose. Come back next time for more
Bart Leger:encouragement to help you live grounded in God's truth. Until
Bart Leger:then, God bless and have a great day.