Praying When You Don't Believe Your Prayers Are Getting Through
Key Takeaways
- A stretch of unanswered prayer does not mean you are doing something wrong or that God is not listening.
- Psalm 88 provides biblical validation for an unanswered prayer by ending in the dark without a tidy resolution.
- The silence in the room when you pray is never silence in heaven, as God hears every word you speak.
- Amy Carmichael's 20 years of bedridden pain and unfulfilled prayers taught her that true peace comes through acceptance.
- You do not need better words or more faith to be heard by God; you can honestly bring Him your frustrations and keep praying.
There are stretches of the Christian life when you pray and it feels like nothing is happening. The words come out of your mouth and vanish into the room, with no sense that anyone is on the other end. You start to wonder if you're doing it wrong, or whether God is listening at all. That kind of stretch can make you want to quit praying, because talking to the ceiling starts to feel pointless.
This episode opens with Amy Carmichael, who spent 35 years rescuing children in southern India and was almost impossible to keep still. In 1931 she fell into an unlit pit, shattered her leg, and twisted her spine, and she spent the last 20 years of her life confined to bed in constant pain. She did what she had always done. She prayed, asking God for the one thing she wanted most, to be well enough to get back to her children and her work. And she waited for the answer.
The psalmist knew that place. Psalm 88:1-2 says, "O LORD, God of my salvation, I cry out to you by day. I come to you at night. Now hear my prayer; listen to my cry." What makes this psalm different from almost every other one is that it never turns the corner. Most psalms that start in the dark climb toward hope by the end. This one doesn't. The writer cries out day and night, and the last line leaves him in the dark with no answer in hand.
Now think about that. The people who assembled the Bible could have left this one out, a prayer with no resolution and no lesson tied up in a bow. They kept it. God kept it, so you would know that a prayer like yours, the kind that seems to go nowhere, belongs in Scripture right alongside the ones that got answered. Your unanswered prayer belongs in the faith. It's printed right in the middle of it.
Here is the truth Psalm 88 holds open for you. Some prayers don't get answered in the room where they're prayed. You may hear nothing back. And still, God heard every word you said. The silence in the room was never silence in heaven. Amy Carmichael learned it from a bed she never got up from, and out of those years came a line people still repeat: in acceptance lieth peace.
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
- Why a stretch of unanswered prayer is not a sign you're doing it wrong
- What Psalm 88 reveals by ending in the dark, with no resolution, on purpose
- How to keep bringing God the prayer that feels like it's going nowhere, and leave the answer with Him
God hears every prayer you pray, even the ones that seem to vanish. The silence in the room was never silence in heaven.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Bible say about unanswered prayer?
The Bible includes Psalm 88, a raw lament that ends without resolution, showing that experiencing an unanswered prayer and feeling unheard are normal parts of the faith journey.
How did Amy Carmichael handle her unanswered prayers?
Despite praying for physical healing for 20 years and never receiving it, Amy Carmichael did not grow bitter or stop praying; instead, she continued her ministry and writing from bed.
Why do some prayers feel like they go nowhere?
Sometimes God's silence in the room is simply a lack of immediate human feedback, but God hears every word you say, and the silence in the room was never silence in heaven.
For most of her life, Amy Carmichael was almost
Bart Leger:impossible to keep still. For 35 years in southern India, she was
Bart Leger:the woman who slipped into Hindu temples in disguise and carried
Bart Leger:out the children being sold into them. She ran a whole compound
Bart Leger:full of rescued kids who called her Amma, Mother. She was always
Bart Leger:moving, always on her feet. Then, one night in 1931, walking in
Bart Leger:the dark, she fell into an unlit pit. She shattered her leg and
Bart Leger:twisted her spine. She never got up again. Between the injuries
Bart Leger:and the nerve pain that followed, Amy was confined to her bed,
Bart Leger:hurting for what turned out to be the last 20 years of her life.
Bart Leger:And she did what she'd always done. She prayed. She prayed
Bart Leger:about everything over the decades, and she'd watched God
Bart Leger:answer again and again. So she asked him for the one thing she
Bart Leger:wanted most now, to be well enough to get back to her
Bart Leger:children and her work. And she waited for the answer. We'll
Bart Leger:come back to what happened to Amy, but
Bart Leger:first, welcome to Daily Devotions for Busy Lives. I'm
Bart Leger:Bart Leger. I've counseled a lot of people over the years who
Bart Leger:felt like their prayers weren't being heard. And sometimes I
Bart Leger:know how they feel. A wife praying for a husband's healing
Bart Leger:that didn't come. A parent praying for a child who kept
Bart Leger:drifting away. They'd ask me, sometimes in tears, whether God
Bart Leger:was even hearing them. I never had a quick answer to give them.
Bart Leger:What I could tell them, and what I've come to believe, is that
Bart Leger:God hears the prayer, even when it feels like it's not being
Bart Leger:heard. Maybe you're there right now. You pray, and it feels like
Bart Leger:the words come out of your mouth and just vanish into the room.
Bart Leger:No sense that anyone's on the other end. You start to wonder
Bart Leger:if you're doing it wrong, or whether God is listening at all.
Bart Leger:That kind of stretch can make you want to quit praying
Bart Leger:altogether, because talking to the starts to feel pointless. If
Bart Leger:you felt that, you're in the Bible's own company. There's a
Bart Leger:psalm written by a man in that exact place. Listen to Psalm 88,
Bart Leger:verses 1 and 2. O Lord, God of my salvation, I cry out to you
Bart Leger:by day. I come to you at night. Now, hear my prayer. Listen to
Bart Leger:my cry. That's the opening of that prayer. And here's what
Bart Leger:makes this psalm different from most every other one. It doesn't
Bart Leger:turn the corner. Most psalms that start in the dark start to
Bart Leger:climb toward hope by the end. This one doesn't. The man cries
Bart Leger:out, day and night. He lists everything that's gone wrong,
Bart Leger:and the last line leaves him in the dark with no answer in hand.
Bart Leger:The psalm just ends there. Now, think about that. The people who
Bart Leger:assemble the Bible could have let this one out. A prayer with
Bart Leger:no resolution, no lesson, tied up in a nice, neat little bow.
Bart Leger:No, they kept it. God kept it because he wanted you to know
Bart Leger:that a prayer like that, a prayer like ours, the kind that
Bart Leger:seems to go nowhere, belongs in the Scripture, right alongside
Bart Leger:the ones that got answered. Your unanswered prayer belongs in the
Bart Leger:faith. It's printed right in the middle of it. Here's the truth
Bart Leger:Psalm 88 holds open for you. Some prayers don't get answered
Bart Leger:in the room where they're prayed. You may hear nothing back, and
Bart Leger:still, God heard every word you said. The silence in the room
Bart Leger:was never silence in heaven. Now let me tell you what happened to
Bart Leger:Amy. It never came. The healing Amy prayed for didn't arrive.
Bart Leger:Not that year, and not in any of the 20 years she had left. Her
Bart Leger:body never got better. She prayed into what looked, from
Bart Leger:the inside, like a closed door, and nothing came back. But
Bart Leger:here's what she didn't do. She didn't stop praying, and she
Bart Leger:didn't grow bitter. From that bed, in constant pain, she kept
Bart Leger:running the ministry, and she wrote some of the most beloved
Bart Leger:books of her life, one page at a time. And out of those years
Bart Leger:came a line people still repeat, In acceptance lieth peace. Amy
Bart Leger:had learned something the psalmist knew. God hears every
Bart Leger:prayer you pray, even the ones that seem to disappear into thin
Bart Leger:air, even the ones he answers with a no. When she died, she
Bart Leger:asked for no gravestone. The children she'd rescued set a
Bart Leger:plain birdbath over the place instead, with one word carved
Bart Leger:into it. Ama, or mother. In acceptance lieth peace. Amy
Bart Leger:prayed for healing every one of those 20 years, and never got it.
Bart Leger:She got something else instead, a peace that let her keep
Bart Leger:writing and keep mothering from a bed of pain. She's not going
Bart Leger:to carry her. She got her back in the bed of pain. The God who
Bart Leger:told her no was hearing her all the time. He heard every prayer
Bart Leger:that ever came from that bed. Here's today's challenge. If
Bart Leger:your prayers feel like they're going nowhere, don't stop. Pray
Bart Leger:the Psalm 88 kind of prayer, the one with not necessarily any
Bart Leger:tidy ending. Tell God plainly that you feel unheard, and keep
Bart Leger:bringing Him the thing you've been asking for. You don't need
Bart Leger:better words or more faith to be heard. You already are. Pray it
Bart Leger:again today, and leave the answer and the timing with a God
Bart Leger:who has heard every word. Father, some of us have been praying
Bart Leger:into what feels like an empty sky, and we're worn out from
Bart Leger:wondering if you hear us. Thank you that you kept Psalm 88 in
Bart Leger:your book, so we'd know our kind of prayer belongs to you. You
Bart Leger:hear every word, even the ones that seem to go nowhere. Give us
Bart Leger:Amy's peace to keep praying and not grow bitter, and to trust
Bart Leger:that you heard us long before we ever see the answer. In Jesus'
Bart Leger:name, amen. and a review if your app allows it? It helps more
Bart Leger:people find these devotions, and it only takes a moment. I'd be
Bart Leger:so grateful. And thanks for joining me on Daily Devotions
Bart Leger:for Busy Lives. Remember, God hears every prayer you pray,
Bart Leger:even the ones that seem to vanish into the room. And
Bart Leger:silence there was never silence in heaven. Come back next time
Bart Leger:for more encouragement to help you live grounded in God's truth.
Bart Leger:Until then, God bless and have a great day.